Let's be honest. Size really does matter when it comes to 'privates' and I think we can all agree that the longer the better! So how can we have the satisfying, long privates we all dream of? The answer is unexpected and takes us all the way back to our hunter-gatherer days when we relied on our instincts for our very survival. Before we go into how that's even possible, let's talk about what's making your privates short. (Again, the answer may surprise you)

**Disclaimer: This list is not a criticism of 'model mistakes', but more an honest examination of common behaviors and habits of cam models everywhere. Including me**

Common 'Boner Killers' To Avoid

Not being ready

You accept the private, the show starts, but you all of a sudden need to grab toys, move to a new room etc... It's impossible to be prepared for everything, but keeping important things (toys, lube, towels, water, lip balm, etc..) within arms reach is just smart. Now I know you are saying "Nikki, they waste time in PM's "preparing" for a potential private. So how can I be prepared but also not have my time wasted?".

Answer: Use your profile like a menu. What you do in public, private, and true private etc. Use your photo gallery as a catalog of your outfits, role-play characters, fantasies, toys etc. It's a good idea to name (or number) your outfits so viewers can easily express which they would like for private. If they still try to talk your ear off with nonsense just tell them youre here when they are ready to decide from your easily located menu on your profile. ♥

Slow strip to draw it out

They know what you're doing. It's frustrating AF to watch so they leave. The worst part is you're better than that. Viewers don't need any help with finding things that enforce cam model stereotypes. They do that shit enough on their own lol.

"What kind of show do you want?"

This one might be the worst for two reasons. One, you're not a mind reader and you're only asking out of the goodness of your heart because you care whether or not they like the show. Two, it's the ultimate boner killing reality check. This question is transactional and reminds them that this is your job and not a beautiful love story blossoming between you two.

*TIP - ask if they've been thinking about this all day ;)

How To Make Your Private Shows Last Longer? Start by asking their name

Not their real name of course, but what they would like you to call them now that you're in private with them. How your viewer answers this question will tell you everything you need to know about what type of show they want. Here is a breakdown of the answers you'll get and what they mean.

A) They give you a "real" fake name. Eg. Jim - You have found a true cam fan and they want the full girlfriend/boyfriend experience. Use their name right away to really get them into the show. I can guarantee this person wants to know about you and what makes you cum so do your thing and tell them what feels good. They'll love it.

B) They say nothing or "just my username" - Drop your pants and go because you've got a run and gun show on your hands. It won't last long...but thanks for the tokens bb

*Don't get discouraged by these ones, I've found a lot of them to be repeat customers*

C) Sissy, bitch, slut, etc.... Surprise! You've got a fetish show!

Change the scene

This can be as simple as shifting your camera angle to show a different view of your room. Right away your viewers are going to be engaged in the show because you've shown them something new.

Introduce the change in scenery by saying things like:

"Im happy we're in private together. Let me show you my favorite camera angle."

"You get to see my super secret private show set-up!"

Or whatever feels natural to you....Not only does this peak viewers interest, it makes the experience feel valuable. Think about it: If your private shows LOOK similar to your public shows then what were they paying for? The change in scenery adds value to the show and makes it feel special.Follow these tips and watch your private show minutes rack up!

Love you bb's! XO

~ Your Cam Coach Nikki Night